‘He’s a tyrant who lacks discipline': Woman yells at her friend when their spoiled 4-year-old throws wife's wedding ring out of the window, gets shamed by friend group

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Apr 7, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

How a parent disciplines their child is unique to each family, and you must respect that. A child has to learn what is kind and what is unkind, and what is socially acceptable and not—that is the importance of discipline. 

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  • Nobody likes unsolicited parenting advice, even if you're not a parent. Nobody likes being told what to do with their child (and nobody likes when someone who isn't your therapist starts blaming your parents for how they raised you). But let's be honest, sometimes a parent is so clueless, that they need to be hit with some serious knowledge immediately. 

    Take for example Nora and her 4-year-old Jack from this Reddit post by Admirable-Cold-8875. Jack was notorious for being a naughty kid, everyone in the friend group knew. Still, Nora brought her kid to a friend's house for a little get-together they were having and, of course, Jack acted up. He pretended like he wanted to take a nap, but instead, snuck into the host's bedroom and took the wife's wedding ring from her bedstand (she's a nurse and doesn't like to wear it at work). When the host asked the mother to please retrieve her wife's wedding ring, the mom said “he'll get bored of it eventually” and didn't do anything. So, instead, Jack threw the ring out of the window. Rightfully, the host got upset and let the mom know it, and yet the friend group shunned her for getting upset. But the internet agrees that this kid was lacking serious discipline. What do you think?

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    "Her son had no manners and she needed to do something about him.'
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    AITA for telling my friend her kid has no manners?? A few of my (26F) friends came over to our house for a get- together lunch. A few of them have kids and brought them.
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    One of my friends, Nora (28F) has a 4 year old son (Jack) that is notorious for being naughty. Jack doesn't get along with other kids and is a constant source of crying and screaming. Nora brought Jack over. He said he wanted to take a nap so I showed Nora the guest room and told her to make herself comfortable. Nora came back downstairs after a while and we hung out.
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    Now, around 40 minutes later Jack came back down and was smiling like crazy. He had my wife's (Kate - 29F) wedding ring. Kate is a doctor and doesn't take her ring to work. She leaves it on our nightstand. Jack had clearly gone into our bedroom. I told Nora I'd like him to give the ring back. Nora said he'd just get bored with it now and that I needed to relax.
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    A few minutes later I asked Jack to please give the ring back. This triggered something because he ran to the window and threw the ring out in our spacious backyard. I got really, really mad. Kate adores her ring, and I had it custom made with many little touches. It was extra special because it resembled a ring in her nana's family that she couldn't have because she chose to marry a woman.
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    So after all that I told Nora her godd##n son had no manners and she needed to do something about him, maybe take him to a doctor because this is not healthy kid behavior. She got very upset and left. Other guests started leaving too. Kate and I spent the entire evening looking for it but we couldn't find it.
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    I am a crying mess, Kate keeps saying it's nothing but I know how much she loves that ring. Despite all this every mom in our friend group is calling me an AH for taking it too hard on Jack and Nora. Was I an AH?
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    YouthNAsia63 15h ago Prime Minis d [538] Your "friend group" can get on their hands and knees and comb every inch of your yard, too, or they can never be invited back to your home. And if you never find the ring, you can ask for a new ring to be made, to the exact specifications, and Jack's mama can pay for it. NTA Jack's mama was responsible for her child. She can pay to replace what he threw out the window, (while she did nothing), even if you have to get a court judgment to make her.
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    Crafty_Meeting2657 Parta ipant [1] • 15h ago Absolutely NTA! Jack doesn't need a doctor. He needs discipline! And the friend group contains a bunch of choice idiots. • Cheap-Shame 14h ago Exactly THIS!! How would they feel if it was their home, jewelry and property disrespected by a tyrant who lacks discipline. They would all be forgotten and soon!
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    Victoriavix1212 • 13h ago He needs discipline! The mother saying "he'll get bored soon" is the key indication there is zero discipline in Jack's house
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    rachelboese ⚫ 14h ago • But also get a metal detector. And stop being friends with these people. queenchubkins 14h ago If you don't want to buy one, you can hire people who are professional metal detectors. And make Nora pay for it. Yersiniosis 13h ago • Our local library has them to check out as well. Check your local library for one!
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    ProfessionalSugar790 14h ago You'd think they would have all been doing that immediately. Or at least the mom of the kid. I agree with everything in the comment above. Why didn't your friends care more about something precious to you? No_Repeat4435 14h ago Seconding the make Nora pay for her son's mistake suggestion. As a parent, you are responsible for all the sh*tty things your (minor) child does. NTA. And hopefully, you find the ring, otherwise, once again, make Nora pay.
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    elfenmilke 14h ago • Unbelievable that the "friend" group didnt stay to help find it but call her the a**hole? NTA - of course, yes kids take stuff bc they are little and dont know better but PARENTS are there to teach them! And thats nora's job, it was something sentimental and expensive and even if it wasnt it didnt belong to jack or nora for her to make the desicion thay he could play with it. Im fuming over here. I hope you can find it.
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    No-Self-jjw 13h ago • It's so insane to me the amount of young parents now who just refuse to parent their children. I'm not talking physical discipline because I don't necessarily agree with that either, but they literally just shove ipads in their face constantly so they never learn any sort of social skills. My kids being bad? iPad. My kid is curious and I'm too busy shopping, talking or playing on my phone to watch him? iPad. We're at a restaurant and I don't want to deal with him? iPad. And
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    If my child had someone's wedding ring I would've immediately taken it from them and there would be some sort of conversation or punishment for going into someone's bedroom and taking their things, they would've been taken out of there immediately. That is not acceptable and the fact that she really said "oh he'll get bored of it" instead of just taking it from him? Is she that scared of telling her young child what to do? She should be paying for it to be replaced or renting a metal detector an
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    actually sad for the children that are suffering because they aren't learning basic social skills and emotional regulation because their parents would rather distract them with an iPad 24/7 than deal with them. Btw this is not a comment on every parent with an iPad, just the kind who CONSTANTLY use it to keep their child distracted so they don't have to interact with them. And yes some genuinely have behavioral issues which is different and perhaps the kid in this story did, but the mother refus
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    Uhwhateverokay Partassipant [3] • 12h ago Also, the kid doesn't need a doctor, he needs someone to parent him. As a kid I wouldn't have DREAMED of going into a bedroom in anyone's house without being invited into that room. I felt like I was intruding in my own sister's and parents' bedrooms. And then he stole something and refused to give it back? And mom's entire response was "he'll get sick of it, relax". The kid has no manners because his mom has no manners and isn't even TRYING to do her jo
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    Mentalcomposer • 15h ago Certified Proctologist [26] NTA The truth hurts. And all those other friends saying you were too hard? They all think the same thing about precious little jack. They just don't have the nerve to say it. Notice their kids don't act like that. What kind of parent doesn't immediately take the ring from the kid? This isn't a stuffed toy, it's somebody's wedding ring ffs! He'd get bored with it? Seriously? Thats the best she could come up with? I would have pried that little
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    Dewhickey76 • 14h ago Parta ipant [2] THIS!* That kid is headed towards a awakening when the world doesn't bend to his will. I hope his mom has an epiphany and changes her parenting style, or some dough, cuz she's probably going to want to send his boarding school by the time he hits double digits to
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    DancesWithFlax 14h ago ...And then Mommy Dearest will make MORE excuses for li'l Jacky- when he's arrested, tried, convicted and imprisoned 'cause it's not REALLY his fault and that jury and judge were just so MEAN to him, etc., etc., ad nauseum. Meanwhile, the sensible people like you who TRIED to get Mommy Dearest to recognize that Jack is out of control will be paying for his stay in Club Fed... You are NTA, but I can't say the same for all those people making excuses for Jack.
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    WidoVonP 13h ago • As the parent of an almost 4 year old, I would have wrestled the ring from my kid immediately. And if they got away and threw it out the window, I'd have been the first person out there looking for it while apologizing profusely. OP, your friends NTA.
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